That Pesky Guest List

Some couples find it hard to draw a line for who is invited to the reception or if there is an obligation to invite someone. I have outlined a few suggestions to restrict friends or extended family without making them feel left out...

Set an Age Limit

For couples with a HUGE family, sometimes it's best to set an age restriction. This age could be 18 (only adults) or 21 (old enough to drink) or eliminate the little ones. It may be unfair, but children are difficult to accommodate in regards to food and the hours of the reception. The proper way to word this on the invitations is "Adult reception" and simply address the invitation to "Mr. & Mrs. Jones" as opposed to "Mr. & Mrs. Jones and Family". You can also eliminate guests in what I call "rounds". If you invite one great-aunt, you have to invite them all or none.

Golden Rule

"If I wasn't invited to yours, you're not invited to mine." This applies to extended family and even friends who didn't invite you to their wedding. On the other end of that spectrum, if they did invite you to their wedding and you have the room, you should invite them to yours.

Co-Workers

It is hard to define who should be invited or not invited from the workplace. It is up to you to use your best judgement, but remember that "work" and "play" should have a defined barrier. Maybe invite your boss and their significant other, but limit the people you directly work with so no feelings are hurt. If you do choose to invite a select few, it's important not to discuss the wedding at work so others don't feel left out. 

Comment below with your own dilemmas or suggestions. We'd love to hear from you and how you've handled this sticky situation!