Another Wedding Horror Story

We have all heard the horror stories about weddings...the limo brought the groom to the wrong church, the bride's dress didn't fit on the morning of the wedding, the bride's parents hate each other and have to be refereed the whole night...Let's add one more to that ongoing list: the mother of the groom was late to the ceremony and delayed the entire wedding! The following is a true story but all parties will remain nameless.

Everyone has at least one relative who is late for everything (you can't assign them to bring an appetizer to parties because they won't get it there before dessert). In this case it actually wasn't even the groom's mother's fault, but nonetheless, she was late. Before I get into the reasons I'll start by telling you the effects. For starters, it threw off the entire timeline of the wedding. The ceremony started 45 minutes later than scheduled, therefore the formal pictures were rushed so that the photographer would still have sunlight before the sun set. Not to mention the added stress and anxiety it brought on the bride. And the "coordinator" at this particular venue actually wanted to start the ceremony before the groom's mother arrived. I'm sure all she was thinking about was the time that was being cut into the reception, which was already pre-determined and paid for, and that they would now need to stay an hour longer to add more reception time. A planner who is hired by the couple and does not work for the venue thinks about ways to calm the bride, what to do to entertain the awaiting guests, etc.

Now, the reason for the tardiness: This particular couple did not hire a wedding coordinator because "our place has one already". Aside from the above mentioned example between the venue's coordinator and the couple's coordinator, there was nobody to do the decorating. Being the generous person she is, the groom's mother offered to do most of it herself. When she was finished decorating she returned to the hotel everyone was saying in to shower and change. On the way back...guess what...yup, TRAFFIC!

The moral behind the story: you are much better off hiring someone who is not a guest or in any way IN the wedding to do the decorating and setting up. If the couple did this, then the mother of the groom would be able to relax and enjoy getting ready for her son's wedding.


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